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thoughts on the way to the supermarket

I'm going to be away this weekend, when I'd normally post, so I'm putting a little something up now.

... My students this time around (this is the second cohort; the first group graduated in June) like to get me to Google things for them, and I like doing it, but one student asked me for information on stress reduction, and oh man, no quick and cute list of things is going to do it for you, my friend. I was pondering this as I walked to the supermarket this morning. About how easy quick recipes are to give out--and it's not even that they're not accurate, necessarily; yes, deep breaths do help relieve stress--but how insufficient they are. We--by which I mean all of us--need so much more. We don't need a list. We need someone to sit with us, someone to lean on; we need the impossible sometimes, because it's more than the parched world we live in can give to us, let alone any particular person.

But we can make it. Many of us do, day after day, through a patched-together, makeshift system; we make ourselves stronger and also we rely on others, multiple others, and somehow we go forward, and meanwhile, we're also providing support for others; we're part of *their* patched-together, makeshift system. It's all the blind leading the blind--that's how it works.

I'll still try to find her some tips, though.

This entry was originally posted at https://asakiyume.dreamwidth.org/915996.html. Comments are welcome at either location.

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heliopausa
Aug. 8th, 2019 03:36 pm (UTC)
I feel rather bitter about this - about the hugeness of the task to reduce stress on those who are living under almost inescapably stress-inducing circumstances. A little while ago a study was released, showing that spending two hours a week in natural surroundings has great benefit for ... oh well, you can pretty well write the results of the study without reading it, it's so obvious.
And just as obvious is how hard it can be - how almost impossible - for some people to find two hours a week to rest uninterrupted in tranquil, green surroundings - or to get to those spaces at all.

https://www.theguardian.com/environment/2019/jun/13/two-hour-dose-nature-weekly-boosts-health-study-finds

Sorry - I know this wasn't the point you were making, which is a good one.
asakiyume
Aug. 8th, 2019 04:28 pm (UTC)
I had the same feeling about that study on getting out in the green. It seemed cruel in its failure to recognize what you point out.

I'm trying to just work on stuff where it is. The systems are all hugely unfair; life, the chance of how and where you're born are unfair--just everything. So I'm trying to ask myself, given all that, given where I'm placed and who I am, what things can I do.
heliopausa
Aug. 9th, 2019 08:36 am (UTC)
"... what things I can do..."

You do heaps, and with real and positive impact on those around you. Yes, we must all work as best we can to support each other. Wishing you well indeed, in finding ways for the woman you mentioned to de-stress.
asakiyume
Aug. 9th, 2019 03:20 pm (UTC)
Thank you <3
pinkroo
Aug. 8th, 2019 08:15 pm (UTC)
I feel this at the hospital, when patients are given stress relief tips. These are ppl with chronic mental illness, suicidality, often homeless, all of them (best I can tell) with a traumatic background. The weight of their need feels so large in comparison to what the hospital system is able to offer them.
asakiyume
Aug. 9th, 2019 03:19 pm (UTC)
I entirely agree :(
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