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Two encounters

A few days ago I went in to the nearby supermarket. I went to one cashier whom I like--we always chat a little. She's maybe in her thirties? You won't be able to tell from my sketch, though I'm pleased because it does kind of look like her. She has pretty intense cheekbones.

Anyway, it had been a few days since I'd been in, and when she saw me, she smiled and said, "Good to see you! I haven't seen you in a while!"

This made me so very happy.

Which is just to say, little friendships, or whatever you want to call them--friendly acquaintanceships--can make a difference.

The other encounter was at a Dunkin Donuts. I was waiting in line, and at last it was my turn to order.

"You were the last, but now you're first," the manager said. (He was taking the orders.)

"Wow, like in the Bible," I said.

He gave me a look full of great skepticism. Not sure where the skepticism was aimed but .... anyway, the coffee was great.

Tune in next entry for a very cool poem I heard this morning.


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Dec. 12th, 2015 11:00 pm (UTC)
That's awesome!

I love it when people notice that I'm a regular. It makes me feel good.
Dec. 12th, 2015 11:03 pm (UTC)
Tiny friendlinesses are like the opposite of microaggression --they nurture and brighten you.

And yeah, it's nice to be remembered.
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Dec. 12th, 2015 11:05 pm (UTC)
I seem to have several of those. They are, indeed, good for the heart <3
Dec. 13th, 2015 03:12 pm (UTC)
I'm glad you have these too <3
Dec. 12th, 2015 11:17 pm (UTC)
It wasn't skepticism; you're a poet, he dunks donuts.

I wish I shopped at your market; she of the conveyer and projecting cheekbones is a strikingly signature beauty!
Dec. 13th, 2015 03:12 pm (UTC)
She is very pretty!
Dec. 12th, 2015 11:27 pm (UTC)
"Wow, like in the Bible," I said.

Suddenly very profound! He may not have been expecting that :)

It's nice to feel like you're known and have a connection to people, even a small one.
Dec. 13th, 2015 03:13 pm (UTC)
Yeah, maybe that's what it was.

I'm glad for it--that amount of being known feels pretty good.
Dec. 13th, 2015 01:25 am (UTC)
As for the Bible thing: I doubt he recognized the reference-- and the word "Bible" can have a whole lot of unsavoury associations.

For the encounters:
My perspective may have become overly bleak. It has certainly become bleaker in the past year, two years, several years. I find myself thinking how rare it is to be looked at, actually looked at, and kindly, as a fellow-being of standing in one's world.
So many seem to view most humans they encounter as functionaries to serve as promoters or suppliers in their fascinating first-person lives.

It is a great gift. It doesn't strike me as very costly. But it is shockingly rare.
Dec. 13th, 2015 06:19 am (UTC)
This is what I try my hardest to do at work, because people need it. To look at everyone as an individual person with whom I'm interacting.

ALSO one of these days I'm going to write a novel about this experience of little lovely friendships. I have it all plotted, about a Minoan girl's recovery from tragedy to life, including a friendship lie this with a stonemason. One of these days...
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Dec. 13th, 2015 10:13 am (UTC)
Connections, connections... so important--even the ones that "short out." What a beautiful gift it is to let others know they are noticed.
Dec. 13th, 2015 03:39 pm (UTC)
very, very brief connections
I saw an aunt or grandma or maybe babysitter (she was talking to the young girls with her about "your mother," so she wasn't their mother) picking up sweetgum seed cases for the little girls with her. I remember spray painting these gold and using them as Christmas ornaments when my kids were little, so when our eyes met, I smiled, and she smiled back.

(Here are those sweetgum seed cases--don't they look already like ornaments?)
Dec. 13th, 2015 11:43 am (UTC)
:) Maybe not exactly scepticism, because after all the whole modus operandi of a queue is that the last will gradually move up to be first, so he'd see the last become first quite a lot! :)

But the little friendships are great! I had a brief but very cheerful interaction with a bus driver during the week.
I waved eagerly to the approaching bus...
but a taxi thought I was wanting him, and swerved in, in front of the bus! (oh no!)!
So then I waved desperately to the taxi-driver: negative! negative!
then again to the bus, anxiously (lots of adverbs here! :D ) yes! yes!
and the taxi swung away again, and the bus drew up, with great skill and verve to where I was waiting, and the driver grinned, and saluted me, laughing at me for my doubts and my wild goose-ish waving. :)

Edited at 2015-12-13 11:47 am (UTC)
Dec. 13th, 2015 03:43 pm (UTC)
Hahaha, good point about seeing last become first.

That's funny about the bus and taxi confusion! Good thing your signaling was understood and the bus did stop for you!
Dec. 13th, 2015 11:55 am (UTC)
He gmve me a look full of great skepticism.

Perhaps he thinks Bob Dyland made it up.

But yes, the small encounters that make a neighbourhood. The sense of being known where you live - not too much, just enough.
Dec. 13th, 2015 03:44 pm (UTC)
Could be--a more proximate source for the quote!

And yes, exactly: not too much, just enough.
Dec. 13th, 2015 02:06 pm (UTC)
Love the top one!
Dec. 13th, 2015 03:45 pm (UTC)
It was a warming moment.
Dec. 13th, 2015 06:54 pm (UTC)
Those little contacts are so important! I remember one time when I got new glasses, I was shocked at how many people would acknowledge or smile at me from a distance, and I must have been snubbing them all this time because their faces were just a blur...
Dec. 13th, 2015 07:51 pm (UTC)
My husband has said the same thing about not responding to people because their faces were just blurs! Fortunately I think people understand about that.
Dec. 14th, 2015 12:27 am (UTC)
"Good to see you! I haven't seen you in a while!"
This made me so very happy.

Good to see you.
Neat drawing.
I would have assumed he was making a deliberate reference to the Bible, as maybe you did.
Dec. 16th, 2015 01:25 am (UTC)
I don't know whether it was deliberate or not, but it was definitely what jumped into my head.

Glad you like the drawing--and good to see you, too.
Dec. 15th, 2015 01:41 am (UTC)
There are several women in my life that make me feel special at McDonald's, Starbucks, Jesse's, Arthur's. They more than act happy to see me. They interact and sincerely care. It has a real and very appreciated impact on my days.
Dec. 16th, 2015 01:26 am (UTC)
It has a real and very appreciated impact on my days.

I hear you; I feel the same way.
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